Many seniors who are bored by the traditional meeting-in-person dating scene are turning to online methods for potential dating matches. Here’s some helpful info. regarding seniors & online dating.
Embracing a newer trend
Dating provides a great way for mature singles to stay socially active and even meet potential life partners. Nowadays, many single, widowed or divorced seniors seek to meet others through popular dating apps, such as eHarmony, Tinder and Match. These apps are designed to connect like-minded people by matching their preferences.
Ready for a new experience?
Online dating platforms can be scary territory for people who are new to dating. Or they may be challenging for those who are digital novices. Before jumping in, here’s some helpful info.:
- It’s okay to ask for help. Online dating increases the potential of finding a dating partner. Therefore, signing up for a dating app should not be ruled out – even for those who feel nervous or lack confidence in computer skills. Rather than be helpless, it’s advisable to ask a trusted and knowledgeable family member or friend for guidance/support as you enter the world of online dating.
- Know what you’re signing up for. Many seniors find great success with online dating. However, not all dating sites are created equally, so do your homework. Dating apps cater to different preferences. Some are designed for flirting or casual dating, while others are set up for serious relationships or intelligent matchmaking based on background and interests. Thus, individuals are cautioned to carefully review dating app choices before signing up.
- Be honest. Most dating apps ask applicants to complete a dating personality profile and/or take a matchmaking quiz to find their match online. A dating personality profile shows one’s traits and may also outline the qualities one seeks in a romantic partner. It is best to be authentic. For example, never overstate employment status or make falsehoods about age. Once a lie is discovered, it is very hard to regain trust. Also, use accurate photos to avoid being misleading.
- Consider options and cost. A person may choose to sign up for one dating app or several. This is a personal and budgetary choice. Note that app prices and options may vary. While some dating apps offer free or low-cost versions, most have varying monthly subscriptions as well as “premium” or “extra” benefits. Upgrades include extended membership, improved compatibility matches, and added security features. Bottom line: Fully review costs and length of subscriptions before signing up.
- Pay attention to details. Dating apps offer a plethora of exceptional features, such as easy-to-use interfaces and customizable filters. Getting value for your money and access to the best features are key. Dating apps may allow users to see matches to include profile pictures and photos, browse anonymously, see who viewed their profile, and get “read” receipts on messages. Some apps permit users to ask icebreaker questions or send “winks” to acknowledge approval of other members. Since features vary, and some may increase costs, decide which ones you can live with or without. For example, additional screenings, the ability to review photos of potential matches, and increased safety and security measures are typically worth the extra cost.
- Be patient. Finding a match isn’t magic, so expect to wait for someone who is a suitable fit. Maintain realistic expectations and don’t feel guilty disengaging with people who are not right for you. It’s okay to end a conversation where you don’t feel a connection. Likewise, never force a connection. It’s better to cordially move on. Your well-being takes precedence over being polite.
- Prioritize safety. When meeting a date, always let a trusted family member or friend know where you are going, who you are meeting, and what time you expect to return. It’s advisable to share your location with this trusted person. Always meet potential dates in public, never in private. Arrange your own transportation to and from the meeting point. Go for coffee during the daytime rather than to a bar at night. And do not leave your drink unattended. If an interaction feels “off,” don’t hesitate to end it. Should you feel uncomfortable meeting someone in person, offer to Skype or FaceTime with them first. Women’s Health Mag warns that “…if they say they can’t…RUN! Because they are probably a catfish!”
- Be street smart. Understand that there are bad people in the world who seek to take advantage of innocent lonely people. Prioritize security and avoid falling for romance scams. Be wary of unsolicited messages or anyone who pressures you to move the conversation off the app. Assume that anyone digging for personal information or asking for money is a scammer.
A fresh experience for seniors
Seniors & online dating is not a new concept. However, online dating may be a fresh experience for some, particularly for those who are widowed or divorced later in life. Regardless, dating apps provide a great way to connect with new people and stay socially engaged. Know that dating apps are different, so choose wisely. Dating apps also offer different features and price points, so one must decide which ones are worthwhile. Since risks are associated with meeting new people, stick with apps offering photo verification and additional screenings and security measures. Always guard your personal information and finances. Also lean on a trusted friend or family member for support or to track your location when meeting someone new. Remember that dating is a positive experience, so it’s okay to spend your time wisely and not waste it with the wrong match – when the right person is likely still out there.
Disclosure: This article is purely informational and is not intended as personal advice.