Have Compassion For Lonely Elders-- There Are A Lot Of Them Out There, and They Need Your Help

Posted on Friday, October 29, 2021
by AMAC, John Grimaldi
lonely seniors

WASHINGTON, DC, Oct 29 — One man’s agony: “I am 77 years old.  I was happily married for 55 years, but I lost my wife a year and a half ago.  No, she didn’t die.  In fact, she is in great physical health– except for her Alzheimer’s Disease.  She is in a Memory Care Facility.  I see her a couple of times each week.  Her confinement and my isolation have left me devastated.  I love her and wake up each and every morning sad and abandoned.”

It’s not easy growing old and alone, no matter the circumstances.  And, while that man’s situation is particularly difficult, a growing number of seniors will be condemned to spend the winter of life in solitude in the coming years. 

The Association of Mature American Citizens [AMAC] cites a report produced by the Joint Center for Housing Studies at Harvard University, which reports that “By 2038, there will be 17.5 million households in their 80s and over, more than double the 8.1 million in 2018. These households will also constitute an increasingly larger share of all US households, doubling from 6 percent in 2018 to 12 percent in 2038. As we note in our recent report, Housing America’s Older Adults 2019, the majority of these households will be made up of just a single person.”

And, says AMAC, a growing number of those “singles” will be senior citizens.  “Seniors who live alone in America are increasing with each passing year and, currently, nearly a third of men and women 65 years of age or older live alone.   The Census Bureau reports that more than 12 million aging seniors live in alone– more than 28% percent of folks over 65 years.  And, interestingly, they do so because they want it that way.” 

The Merck Manual, a comprehensive medical resource for the past 122 years, “almost 90% of older people living alone express a keen desire to maintain their independence. Many fear being too dependent on others and, despite the loneliness, want to continue to live alone.”  Nonetheless, the Manual points out that in order to remain independent, they need to live healthy lives and engage in social activities.

But the reality is that not only has isolation impacted their quality of life, 12% of seniors who live by themselves say they have difficulty making ends meet, not even enough money to deal with basic expenses.  And their loneliness, in too many cases, has been increased by the COVID pandemic and is poised to become especially painful as the holiday season grows near.

But friends, family, and caring neighbors can help alleviate their pain, according to the National Council on Aging.  Here’s how:

And, by all means, keep them on your list of people to call and/or visit on a regular basis and help them feel wanted.

John Grimaldi served on the first non-partisan communications department in the New York State Assembly and is a founding member of the Board of Directors of Priva Technologies, Inc. He has served for more than thirty years as a Trustee of Daytop Village Foundation, which oversees a worldwide drug rehabilitation network.

URL : https://amac.us/newsline/society/have-compassion-for-lonely-elders-there-are-a-lot-of-them-out-there-and-they-need-your-help/